Just Around the Corner

I felt great today and I have to tell you it's strange to feel great. What I'm used to is either having one hell of Gerson Therapy detox flare-up or the horrendous side effects from the chemotherapy & radiation. I am without any of that. Oh, it's great and I love it. I'm not saying it's not. But it's definitely a new experience when I compare it to the last year or so.

On Wednesday July 9th I go in for a pre-surgery CT scan followed by blood work and a visit with Dr. A - my chemo Doc. That should be pretty uneventful as long as my counts are good. I am imagine they will be. Like I said - I'm feeling great.

On Thursday July 10th, Daniela & I will meet with Dr. Cagir - my surgeon - and discuss the plan for my surgery on July 16th. We'll also meet with a Nurse Practitioner (whose name I don't recall at the moment) who will provide me with all the information I need about managing the colostomy.

After that, I will relax for four days. On the fifth day - July 15th - we will celebrate Daniela's birthday!!!!!!!!!! And in addition to the WILD PARTY we're sure to have, I will begin my pre-surgery prep. I will only drink clear fluids for the entire day along with enough laxatives to keep an elephant home from work!!!

Oh YEAH - good times. Hopefully I will be able to make it through all 15 seconds of "Happy Birthday" without having to excuse myself from the room in order to complete my hundred-n-forty-seventh trip to the bathroom. I suppose I could leave the door open and sing a little louder. Then again, maybe we should just celebrate her birthday on the 14th this year. She might like that a little better.

WHOOPS!!! LAST CALL!!!

I completely forgot to mention that Sue Cosentini & Michelle Newhart are having a yard sale on 527 N. Aurora St. and will donate all funds to the Bert Scholl Fund. Sue said they will likely be there until 7 PM this evening. So, if you're local, you're invited to stop by and peruse the goods and you might even be able to get some lemonade out of the deal!

Anesthesia

I am happy to report that it's been three days and I have not had a bad reaction to the anesthesia I received for my ultrasound on July 2nd. The anti-nausea pre-meds did their job. What an absolute relief. And it was also quite a relief to not have the kind of next-day-pain that I had following my last ultrasound. Good things.

And it is still so strange to suddenly open my eyes and realize I am back in the recovery room waking up and the procedure is complete.

And that reminds me, I keep thinking of how weird it will be when I wake up to a stoma poking out of my abdomen and into a plastic bag. THAT is going to be WEIRD. Oh well. I imagine once it's all said and done, I'll have maybe a little something to say about it.

Ultrasound Update

Dr. Cagir called early this afternoon with an ultrasound update. He informed me that a big portion of the tumor has melted away and he was very happy about that. He also said that he is hoping for more shrinkage because the tumor is still very close to the pelvic bone and he believes that more shrinkage is likely. Should the tumor be attached to the pelvic bone on the day of surgery, he will go ahead with the the tumor and organ removal and then prescribe another round of radiation to be certain that any remaining cancerous tissue is destroyed. And should that be the case, while he still has me on the table, he will also attach titanium clips to my pelvic bone to serve as markers for the radiation team.

This is not the kind of news I was hoping for, yet Dr. Cagir says he still feels very good about the outcome of the procedure and doesn't see any reason to be alarmed. I can't say I'm on the same page as him, but Daniela and I will speak with him in person on July 10th. The three of us agree that an in-person visit will make the specifics of of conversation easier to understand.

The Ultrasound

The anesthesia seems to have not gotten the best of me this time - no nausea. I had a little bit of a headache and my bladder seems a little slow to get going & sore as a result...?...but having no nausea was quite a relief.

We have yet to hear from Dr. Cagir about the results. I imagine we will hear from him on Thursday. On a better note, I had a blast giving the nursing staff and anesthesiologist a
hard time while I was in there. When ever you are in for surgery, they ask you multiple times who you are, what surgery you will receiving and who is giving you a ride home. They want NO mistakes and every patient delivered home safely.

Of course, when the anesthesiologist asked me what I was there for, I responded by telling her I was there to get my left leg removed. After she burst out laughing, she told me my answer wasn't funny. I felt I better tell her the truth before my name was changed IHOP. So, I corrected myself and I woke up with both legs still firmly attached. What really cracked me up was when the nurse who over-looked me before and after the ultrasound, told me what I said before I fully came to. As she is required, she again asked me who was going to give me a ride home. Apparently I told her, "Some dude in a rusty old car that I met at the diner this morning." Wow! Even when I'm half-unconscious, I still have it in me to be a wise ass. Fortunately, she was still laughing about it when I left.

I figure the laughter is was keeps me relatively sane as I anticipate and find my way through something I would rather not do, i.e., get knocked out and have a steel pipe shoved up my butt!!! And the appointment kind of felt like a test run for July 16th. Kind of. And all jokes aside, it was nice to have gone through the anesthesia procedure a couple times before the big one.

Oh, and in addition to the headache and my confused bladder, my arse was indeed a bit sore this evening. I imagine I will in for a little more pain tomorrow as the IV drugs ware off. Thank goodness I have my own batch at home (not IV of course). And again, some temporary head & butt pain is far more tolerable than nausea - at least in my world.

Ultrasound

One more thing!

Wednesday July 2, 2008 I will receive a rectal ultrasound. Fortunately, I will be anesthetized due to the pain I would otherwise experience. And I am happy to share with you that I met with the anesthesiologist and I will be receiving anti-nausea medication this time around - orally and intravenously - to keep me from getting sick like the last time. Let's hope it works.

Also, the last time I had a rectal ultrasound, I was in a lot of pain for the day or two that followed. So, I can't be certain if I'll be up for posting a blog update. At best I will be laying on the couch watching the Red Sox play the Tampa Bay Rays. GO SOX!!!

My BIG Pretense

Up until this moment, I have not been honest about my upcoming surgery. My surgeon is not going to simply remove the tumor. He is also going to remove 40% of my large intestine - the last 40%: descending colon, sigmoid colon & rectum - along with the sphincter muscle and as a result, I will have a permanent colostomy. If you are unfamiliar, a colostomy is

a surgical construction of an opening from the colon through the abdominal wall to the outside of the body for the purpose of excretion.

To put it bluntly, maybe you have heard the expression "Opinions are like assholes - everybody has one." That will no longer be true in my case. Mine will simply be gone and all that will remain will be some skin sewn together and it will be an exit no more. I will therefore have a removable bag or - to use the current term - a pouch attached to my abdomen - a catch-all if you will. Essentially, the pouch will do the job of my non-existent rectum and be conveniently detachable.

So, right now at this moment, I have to tell you, I feel like I'm frozen. I have just let the cat out of the bag and now I have to deal with myself - with my emotions and judgments. Why? Because I have a HUGE problem with having a colostomy and an even HUGER problem with the idea of you knowing about it. I am clear that I have been uncomfortable about people knowing about the colostomy. And why? Well, if you think about it, I don't really want to know how you do what you do in the bathroom. And I'm sure the feeling is mutual. It's a topic we don't really discuss - at least I don't! And by sharing this with you, I'm now discussing it.

However, there was something else there for me. Something else even bigger that was keeping me from being honest or at least willing to share this aspect of my experience. I have known about this since March and couldn't bare the thought of making it public. I have been so confronted at the thought of sharing this information on the blog, that Sunday night (just two nights ago) I even went so far as to create a second blog - invitation only - for those folks who knew I was to have a colostomy. I was going to do my non-colostomy posts on this blog and then the colostomy posts on the other blog. So, I posted my first entry and asked those who were invited to keep quiet about it. Via Blogger, I had sent out my first batch of invitations and I was in the process of determining who else was to be added to the list.

Fortunately, my friend Jim Steigerwald - a dear friend of nearly 20 years - sent me an email after receiving his invitation from me to be a member of my private blog. Jim has always been a great friend - right from the day I met him. He's actually an amazing guy in general. Here's a piece of the response he wrote to me regarding my decision to keep the colostomy a secret:

I’m of the opinion that as soon as you move this to the forefront as part of your treatment, you’ll also move headlong towards a comfort level which you seem to be lacking. I only say this due to your desire to share the deepest inner workings of “Bert in recovery” on the blog, and are currently leaving out what I consider one of the biggest cogs to come along. This is a big part which is being brushed over. Though you’ve expressed jubilation about the surgery itself, the coming to terms with what the surgery is actually going to do is missing.

What I love about Jim is that he maintains a high level of integrity in his relationships such that he's only willing to speak the truth. Jim invited me to look at what I was unwilling to see and in my book that is a true friend and for that I am grateful to you Jim.

After reading Jim's email, it hit me how uncharacteristic of me it was to keep it a secret. Daniela had encouraged me to look at what had me choose to keep it a secret as soon as she learned of my decision as well. But I couldn't see it. And I was unwilling to make myself vulnerable to so many people when I hadn't a clue as to what this fear was all about.

Well, upon reading Jim's email it hit me. I have always felt pity for those people who have colostomies. In my mind, pity holds a judgment. Compassion would have me open my heart to a person with a colostomy or anything else for that matter. Pity had me look down upon them and feel sorry for them. And for me to be of those who are pitied and looked down upon disgusted me. And with that I suddenly realized how presumptuous and ignorant it was of me to have made up this story about how life was for others - that their life was one that deserved pity. I even took on the roll of being embarrassed for you if you had a colostomy. I feel no pride in being this way. However, I am incredibly grateful to have distinguished what it was that had stopped me dead in my tracks from being honest about my experience.

I also want to say I am clear that once I have fully come to terms with having a colostomy, and I am absolutely certain I will, it will just be a normal part of my life. And should someone go the path I went and pity me, that will be for them to deal with. However, I have not come to terms with having a colostomy. On Sunday, I met with a woman from the area who has an ileostomy - essentially the same as a colostomy except that with an ileostomy you have no large intestine at all. She was great. We talked about everything - the good, the bad and the ugly. She even left me a pouch with the adhesive attachment so I could start to determine if I want it above my belt line or below. Apparently, I will be given some choice in the matter. Well, I haven't even touched the thing since she left. I will, but right now whenever I ask myself, "Is today the day?" I feel the resentment stirring. Maybe tomorrow. Not today.

And since I have the floor, let me say something else. Even the word itself sounds unpleasant - col-OST-omy. Why can't it be a softer sounding word, like stoma? The stoma is the bit of intestine that will be the exit from my abdomen. It may look kinda ugly - all bright red and poking out, but its a nice soft sounding word - it works for me. Stoma. But colostomy? C'mon. To say it out loud, it almost sounds like you're clearing mucous from your throat. Col-AUGHST-omy. Yuck. Who came up with this word? Certainly not anyone who had one!!!

So what's the reason for the colostomy? Even if the radiation and chemotherapy removed any sign of the tumor all together - if it was 100% gone - it is standard procedure when possible, to remove any organ or tissue that he cancer has entered. If the rectum and sphincter were not removed, there would still be a strong possibility of the cancer returning to that area. And if it did return, statistics show that because it has grown through the rectal tissue and entered the sphincter muscle, should it metastasize, it would very likely metastasize to my pelvis (as opposed to my lungs and liver). And my surgeon, Dr. Cagir, made it very clear to me that unlike lung or liver metastasis, pelvic metastasis is accompanied by an excruciating level of pain that no living - or should I say dying - person would want experience. He saw it once and told me the maximum dose of morphine did not relieve the pain. So as you can imagine, I am all for having the surgery. I will do whatever it takes to stay healthy. So sign me up. I plan on sticking around.